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We believe in providing the healing help you need by putting the best resources before you in a manner that is affordable and accessible. We know that often in the aftermath of infidelity and amid marital crisis you need answers that do not add stress and hardship to an already tumultuous reality. Here are some resources we have found, tried and deemed helpful.


Tonya and Jeff


Gateway Marriage & Family: If you live in the Dallas - Fort Worth area, then this is where you should start your healing journey! Gateway Church’s Marriage and Family department has many offerings for healing. They source Anchor of Hope, the initial stabilizing ministry that Jeff and Tonya went through when trying to make sense of what Recovery might look like. They also host Rick Reynolds’ Affair Recovery course with their own leadership of healed married couples that have walked this path before you.

Pure Desire Ministries: Pure Desire exists to provide a safe place for hope and healing from the effects of sexual brokenness. They educate and equip the Church in the development of a healing ministry. Through small group resources for men, women, and teens, on-site or online counseling, training events, and ministry partnerships, Pure Desire is leading the way in the battle for sexual integrity in the church.

Affair Recovery: Has helped thousands of couples heal after infidelity through confidential online courses. Jeff and Tonya credit Affair Recovery as a vital part of their own healing story. “It helped us to build mutual empathy and allowed God to show us how to move forward. We needed the mentorship, friendship and accountability that this group setting provided. The firsthand knowledge that Affair Recovery brings to healing, helped us to move through the process together with others. It helped us to build hope and healing not just into our hearts, minds and souls, but into our marriage!” While the Affair Recovery course has a reasonable cost associated with it, their website has many resources available to encourage and inform you at no charge.

Authentic Intimacy with Dr. Julie Slattery (Java with Julie Podcast). Authentic Intimacy is a ministry dedicated to Reclaiming God’s Design for Sexuality and is all about Sexual Discipleship! Dr Slattery is not afraid to wade into the messy subjects surrounding our sexuality. She brings a beautiful balance of approachability and God’s truth to all conversations. Dr Slattery spent 4 years at Focus on the Family writing, teaching and co-hosting before starting Ai. She, her website, blogs, books and podcasts are all inspirational and contain a great wealth of knowledge. 


  • Fathered By God:
    Learning What Your Dad Could Never Teach You
    by John Eldredge.

  • Hope After Betrayal:
    Healing When Sexual Addiction Invades Your Marriage by Meg Wilson (also comes with a workbook).

  • Surfing for God:
    Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle
    by Michael John Cusick.  


  • Worthy of Her Trust:
    What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back
    by Stephen Arterburn and Jason B. Martinkus

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